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Forgiving

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I had a wonderful conversation a couple weeks ago with a good friend who is about 1,000 times more enlighted than I am. We spoke about life, love, joy, fear, and forgiveness. As we started speaking of forgiveness, I realized that I had some work to do here.

There was parts of me that were still pissed at people for a bunch of past reasons. One stole money from me. One tried to screw me over in business. One was dishonest. One was heartbreaking.

What came to light for me was that all of these past incidents were, well, in the past. The only place they were alive was in my head. Not in the real world – but in my head. And, if that’s the only place they were living, I could – in an instant – decide to put them to bed forever by learning how to forgive.

So, I decided to take his advice and work to let it go – to clear the space in my head that was being used up by past experiences that no longer truly existing in today’s world. Here’s what I wrote after one of my meditation sessions. It summarizes what I did and how I feel:

Today, the word ‘Forgiveness’ is what I worked on.

Today, I realized that if I had animosity towards someone, it was because I was choosing to hold it, not because of an act they had done.

In my heart, I forgave anyone i could think of that i was holding pain against.

I chose to get to a place of acceptance for them, realizing the only reason i felt pain and hurt was because i loved them – because they meant something great to me.

Instead of holding on to my perception of what I wanted from them, I choose to love them again.

I chose to accept them for who they are instead of requiring them to be someone they’re not. I chose to love, instead of waiting for an apology before I was willing to give love.

I learned I don’t need the apology. I only need to work on my own paradigm and filters on how i choose to view them.

I choose love. I choose peace. I choose forgiveness.

 

 

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Hand-Made and Heart-Felt

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I closed my eyes like she asked me to, and held out my hands. She came over, kissed my cheek, and placed something at my fingertips.

I felt thick, velvety paper, rolled up like a scroll.

I opened my eyes to see a hand-made valentines card, complete with a ribbon and adorned with heart-felt thoughts on what our relationship means to her.

It helped me realize a couple things:

  1. The things I value the most are rarely the things purchased.
  2. The computer can melt circuits, but the pen can melt hearts.
  3. One hand-written, heart-felt sentence can say more than a hundred pre-printed cards.
  4. I need to practice writing from the heart. Even if it’s one sentence at a time.

 

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Women, Men, and Communication

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We are social animals. Thus, we have an absolute need to communicate. Communication connects us, identifies us to our species, and makes up whole.

People split up because they simply stop talking to each other. Being that we crave communication, when a person is not getting it, they automatically seek it somewhere else. Once it starts becoming fulfilled, the person will gravitate towards where he or she is getting their needs met.

I think this is an area where women and men see sex differently. I’m generalizing here, but women see sex as a way of communication – deep communication with her mate. Men see it as something else. I cannot verbalize it right now, but it’s certainly not about deep communication and connection – at least not in the beginning stages (or when us guys are younger).

It takes us a while to get there.

And in the interim, there’s a strong chance that communication breaks down in the process.

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Happy Birthday to my Grandfather

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 I’d like to give a Happy Birthday shout out to the most respectable, honest, and decent man I know.

My grandfather turns 88 years young today. He still goes hunting once a week, raises a garden, mows the lawn, and washes dishes for Grandma. He always has a kind word to say.

You are a true role model and friend. From you, I have learned the value of working hard, keeping my word, and treating everyone with respect.

Thank you for being such a good example to me and everyone you come in contact with.