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44 Life Lessons on my Birthday

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A couple weeks ago, I grew another year wiser. It was the big 44!

I don’t know if you’ve experienced this where, one day, you kind of wake up and realize you’re in the mid-part of your life. It’s surreal. It’s surprising. It’s life.

Honestly, I really feel wonderful. Life just keeps getting better and I feel more centered, fortunate, blessed, and happy than I’ve ever been. I guess time has a way of making things better.

This morning, I woke up and wrote down 44 things I’ve learned over the past 44 years. Things about love, work, drive, direction, purpose, health, and curiosity. Things that have become beliefs. Things that have shaped my view of the world. Things I hold as important.

I’m writing these so when life takes a downward turn, I can go back and remind myself of what’s important. But, perhaps you might find something in here as well that you can apply to your life to make it a bit more fulfilling. If that turns out to be the case, then I’d be a happy man to know I’ve helped you out in a small way.

Enjoy! I’d love for you to comment below and let me know what your favorites are:

Steven Cox Life Lessons

44 Things I’ve Learned in 44 Years.


  1. The value of life is not in what is owned, but what we experience, who we experience it with, and the quality of love we give.
  2. Live life in a way that makes a positive lasting difference on others and your environment.
  3. The air I breathe is borrowed.
  4. When considering happiness, set the bar low. Make it easy for you to find reasons to be happy.
  5. Practice kindness daily.
  6. We are allowed to make mistakes and still be awesome.
  7. Our happiness depends greatly on what we choose to focus on.
  8. We are all one.
  9. Meditate daily.
  10. Character is determined when no one is watching.
  11. There is a difference between looking at someone, and truly seeing them. Focus on the latter.
  12. If you randomly think of someone, stop for a moment and send them positive energy.
  13. Give love freely, for, it is infinite. Receive love openly. You are worthy of love.
  14. Instead of asking what your mate can do for you, ask if you have the character to be the man she needs you to be.
  15. Never stop touching.
  16. It’s OK to cry.
  17. A short, hand-written note is more meaningful than a text or email.
  18. Make a photo book of your friends, family, and events every year.
  19. Friendships must be cultivated, watered, and grown.
  20. At the next party you go to, make it a point to ask questions, be interested, and listen three times more than you talk.
  21. Travel Often. Let curiosity be your guide.
  22. Trade your time only for WOW!
  23. Dress up on Halloween
  24. Go see live theatre
  25. Every so often, only listen to new music for a week. It could be a new station, a new band, or a new genre that you normally woudn’t listen to. Get out of your routine.
  26. Take time to play.
  27. Discover the artist within you without judging him or her.
  28. Risk more than is comfortable. Take a step. Even when you’re unsure, step anyway.
  29. Exercise your body and mind 5 days a week.
  30. Your health matters more than your bank account.
  31. Every so often, do fruit, veggie, raw diets for a few days, and don’t drink during that time.
  32. Buy fewer things of higher value.
  33. Commit to taking full responsibility in every area of your life.
  34. People aren’t watching and talking about you as much as you think they are.
  35. Our greatest challenges yield the most beautiful memories.
  36. Money is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.
  37. When you feel arrogance in yourself, ask what you’re afraid of.
  38. Surround yourself with people who play at things you have to work at
  39. Set stretch goals. The greatest value is not in what you accomplish, but the type of person you become while working on it
  40. Strive for excellence over perfection
  41. Many times, the race is won by those who keep running.
  42. You are not your work. It is a part of what you do, but it is not who you are.
  43. We never have another day to make this day meaningful, so spend more time working on things worth dying for.
  44. Love. Then, love more.


My Juice Cleanse Diet Experiment: Cleanse Your Body, Detox Your Habits

By Food and Drink, Health & Fitness One Comment

I have a goal this year to  drop from 198 to 188. At 188, I feel better, my clothes fit a bit better, and I’m generally overall happier. To kick-start the year right, I ordered a 3-day juice cleanse from Catalyst Cleanse – a juicing company on the east coast. Honestly, I can’t remember how I found them, but during the process of getting the juices for the cleanse, I had a chance to converse with one of the owners  – and they were really pleasant.

The juices arrived via Fed Ex and the fridge was stacked with wholesome goodness.



Being the curious guy that I am, I wish the bottles displayed the calorie intake of each juice. I couldn’t find it on the site or in the pamphlets included. I ordered one set of juices for myself and one for Michelle, but as I got to thinking about it, it didn’t make sense that we drank the same amount. Shouldn’t I have more calories just due to the fact that I weigh a lot more than her?

Anyway, the ingredients are all raw, organic, and in it’s purest form. I was looking forward to eating/drinking that way for a few days.

Catalyst Juice Cleanse Ingredients



Juice Cleanse: Day 1

I grab an espresso and I’m in the gym at 6:00 am like normal. Do 45 minutes on the elliptical machine. (Note, the cleanse says no caffeine… um, no – that’s not an option).

Drink the first of six daily cleanse juices at 7:50 AM

9:30 – definite hunger pangs. Not intense, but my belly knows it’s time to eat again. I drink the second juice. This one’s lemon flavored with a cayenne pepper kick. No lie – I somehow feel the cayenne burn in my eyelid. Weird.

By 11:00 am – my body is buzzing. Kind of like a big-ass caffeine jolt. I tingle in my hands and cheeks. I feel like I want to eat, but I can’t tell whether I’m actually hungry, or if it’s more that I’m in the habit of eating at this time. I want to grab something to munch on, but I don’t.

By 2:00 pm, I feel like I’ve gotten into a rhythm. My anxiousness to eat food has subsided. I pop open my next drink and drink it over the course of an hour, instead of 10 minutes (which is what I did last time).

4:00 – Grrrr – My company has their all hands meeting – complete with MEXICAN FOOD. I avoided it.



6:30 – I’m still at work and now finding it hard to concentrate – part hunger, part weirdness – body adapting, I guess. I left my last juice at home, so I’m going to shut down and go home.

Juice Cleanse: Day 2

6:00 AM – Back in the gym. I don’t have as much energy as I’m used to. About half way through, I’m outta gas. That being said, however, my workouts have been switched up and are pretty intense. Ready for some calories.

11:00 AM – I feel weaker today. My body is buzzing again, like yesterday. Concentration is good. Just feel weak.

3:00 PM – I am grumpy, disturbed, nauseous, and feel nervous. Certainly can tell there is a reaction in my body. I really want solid food right now.

4:30 PM – The grumpiness has subsided. I’m back at full speed.

Later tonight, we went to the movies and saw Life of Pi (good movie, by the way). It’s interesting and insightful for me to be aware of my habit cues that lead me to eat. For instance,as I’m walking to my seat, my habit ritual kicked in: “of course, you’re supposed to get something to much on – and a diet coke”. By becoming aware of the habit, I was able to then decide not to follow it. The habits we form – from eating, to how we treat family, to what we do after work each night – are all part of a neural network that we get into. It’s really valuable to be aware of these habits and to question whether they are doing us good.

(Side Note: I just finished a great book on the topic of breaking your routine called The Power of Habit. I recommend it highly.)

Jucie Cleanse: Day 3

Since I haven’t drank alcohol for a while, I was in bed early last night and got up – on a Saturday – at 6:30 AM ready for the gym. This was my grueling long-ass workout I’ve been doing since the beginning of the year, so I knew I needed a bit extra.

Protein to GoBefore the gym, I had my first juice, coupled with a “Protein to Go” – which is a small shot of 28g of liquid protein – that way my body is still just digesting liquids. It certainly helped.

8:00 AM – I made it almost through the entire workout. At the end, I was certainly spent. After the last set of box jumps, I got light-headed and my body got cold. I could feel every little drop of sweat on my body like a cold shower. Yep – that was enough for today.

Noon – Hungry. I want to punch someone.

6:00 PM – Finished my last juice of my 3-day juice cleanse. I can smell VICTORY! Going to weigh myself in the morning.


When I started, I weighed 198. On the morning after my cleanse, I weighed in at 194.4 lbs – a difference of 3.6 pounds in 3 days. More importantly, I became aware of all the snacking I normally do during the day and understood why I had been struggling to drop the weight I wanted to. All of those extra calories here and there added up.

So, I’m going to commit to a few things:

  • Finish eating by 7:00 pm
  • Never finish my plate (as I was taught to do).
  • Substitute a couple meals for shakes or juices.
  • Refuse to develop the snacking habit.

 How About You?

Have you done a juice cleanse? What did you think? Leave your comments below.