“So, I’d like to raise this toast to honor not only those who came before us, but to celebrate you. And whether you’ve been here, six years, six months, or six days, this is now YOUR story. YOUR company. YOUR journey. And the past won’t hold a pittance to where we’re going to go together.”
I routinely like fixing a martini and writing about philosophy and what I'm experiencing in life at that moment. It helps me stay clear and focused on the bigger picture. It helps me not get caught in the 'thick of thin things'.
I was looking through a few old notes and I fould this posting I wrote 10 years ago. At that time, I'd had a business win under my belt and thought I was hot shit. Instead of continuing to better myself, I had slacked off and stopped challenging my mind. Even though I had more financial resources, I was emotionally empty.
Sometimes I could not see my path until I was able to look back and catch the vibe of where I was, what I learned, and how I've grown. I'm thankful for the people in my life that continue to push me.
May 6, 2001
I am realizing that if I don’t start acting now, continuing to reinvent myself, I run the risk of being one of those middle-aged guys that was mediocre, but never stood out. A good guy, nice person. But never did anything extraordinary.
I am afraid.
Afraid to even type the fact that I’m scared of letting my life pass without making it count.
It is time to re-invent myself. To become the mover and shaker that I know I am. It is simply an unfulfilling life to be a nobody – someone that doesn’t make a difference – someone who doesn’t risk. Half of me runs afraid of losing what I have (my house, etc) and the other half run afraid of being mediocre and not becoming all I can be.
I lost some of the FIRE I was famous for.
Somewhere along the way, I lost the frightened and scared kid that pushed me away from failure.
Somewhere, I lost the necessity for action. I lost the drive that pushed me never ever to settle.
I lost the bull-headed, focused, belief that anything was possible and nothing was good enough.
I lost that feeling that drove me to go to school – that drove me to try my hand at buying houses – that drove me to give up my job and head to Vegas – that drove me to quit a well-paying job for the shot of doing something great.
In essence, I decided to let my life just pass me by for the past few months. I decided – by not deciding – that I had pushed hard enough and now was a time for coasting.
Coasting is being mediocre. It's for the 95% who do not care to push forward.
Coasting is compacency. And complacency is death.
And there I sat, in the midst of the very success I created, and let that same success drain me from the core of what pushed me to start with.
It’s wrong. It’s so wrong.
It’s not the matter of how much cash I have, or what car I drive. It’s that I always keep pushing myself. I always drive forward.
Steven, your goals – your drive – is more important. You are slacking when you fail to commit! I must stay committed. I must stay focused.It's not about setting goals, it's about having the discipline to achieve them.
Take my weight for instance. This is not just about weighing 185. This is about being able to sacrifice for my goals. This is about being able to finish the workout and cardio – even though I feel like quitting.
Do you understand?
This is about CHARACTER.
This is about being able to keep a long-term commitment and surpass all expectations.
This is about pushing myself – getting the FIRE back – getting the drive back.
This is about having the discipline to control my destiny!
This is one way you are going to get your life back!!! What’s “good enough”? Good enough is for losers. Good enough is for people looking for an excuse. I've decided that good enough is not good enough for me.
What motivates me is the pursuit of the challenge, creating, winning, helping someone else achieve, love and loyalty, deep friendships, and fuck-you money. I refuse to hang out with people who are not striving to become better.
It's time to make a change. It's time to require more of yourself than others do. It's time to become passionate again.
In order to make change, I can’t just change my behavior. I must change my belief of who I am. I must change my IDENTITY to myself. I must BE my WHY. Step into your new role TODAY. Change your identity to become what you want. How would I act and feel and think if I was exactly like I want to become?? Go out and DO and KNOW.
Today I will dedicate myself to make a change. And I will be a better man for it.
I'm working on simplifying my life.
Less overhead. Less stress. Better health. Smarter brain. etc.
When I was in Amsterdam last year, I was thinking about designing my life in conjunction to letting life happen. I wanted to plan it and give it direction, yet allow for the beauty of serendipity. I wanted to find the balance between running hard towards my goals, and stopping the run to enjoy each day.
I asked myself about what life is, and how someone gets the most out of it.
I came up with a simple life philosophy:
To me, life is about "incredible experiences with incredible people"
Thats it. Nothing more. Nothing less.
I want to have incredible, fulfilling experiences. And I want to share those with awesome people.
Incredible people means people who are emotionally sound, creative, curious, honorable, genuine, self-appreciative, brilliant thinkers. People who make a positive impact on others, give as much as take, thus creating value.
That means in order to attract awesome people into my world, I have to first be awesome myself. This takes me on the quest for constant and never-ending self-improvement. It's my opportunity to learn how to be awesome.If I am not awesome, then incredible people will choose not to spend time with me.
It means I have to treat people well and seek to make a difference in their lives. I have to add value to them.
This means I have to be in good health. My 'incredible experiences' will be limited if my health fails me.
It helps me plan on how I want to spend my time, what vacations I want to take, where I want to live, who I want to surround myself with, how I spend money, and just about everything else I can think of.
So, while the philosophy is simple, for me it's all-encompasing. It helps me design what I want my life to be, and allows me the freedom to explore what 'incredible' really means.