I had a great time being interviewed by John Lee Dumas of Entrpreneur on Fire.
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I was chatting with a young employee over a beer the other day and we started talking about confidence and its importance. Here is a summary of the conversation along with a diagram on the cyclical pattern of confidence.
What is confidence?
Confidence is a state of mind. It is a lens that we choose to view the world with. What’s cool about it is that it’s available at any time, to anyone.
The state of mind then carries over into how we carry ourselves and the actions we choose to take.
By acting as if you’re confident, you take on the role of a confident person. Your body changes, your mindset becomes different. You become that which you think. You begin to look and carry yourself in a certain way. And a funny thing happens. People treat you as such.
When others see confidence, they instinctually trust and follow it because we all know that these are the types of people that end up creating wins for the companies, their families, their communities, and their world. People instinctually know that the results will be beneficial and leave positive lasting affects on them.
For the most part, people admire those that make impact and they end up sharing their feedback with those that have taken action. That positive feedback helps fuel even higher levels of confidence, which in turn creates more action and results.
It’s one big loop – I call it The Confidence Loop.
How to Get Confidence? Start the Loop
And how do you start the loop? Take Action.
Take action on things you fear. Things you know you should be doing, but are afraid of what people might think.
Take action on something you care about deeply – something that makes a difference.
Be comfortable with knowing that a lot of the action will not produce the outcome you want immediately. But if you keep working at it and persisting towards a clear path, you WILL get better, you will produce better results, and you will be able to affect change in the world.
People (except haters) love others who take action because they’re a true manifestation of living the dream. Just by getting the results, it means the confident people chased their dream, and they’re making it. They are making it work – and it shows us that we, too could have our dream.
It’s a hope for a better tomorrow. Hope for a higher plane of happiness.
I’d love to say that my best ideas were formed inside of my head, but truthfully, the biggest breakthrough’s I’ve had are because I was able to take the raw thought material in my head and receive insights from other smart people.
If you’re smart, that’s a good start. But someone not as bright can play at a much higher level by getting the help of others.
For me personally, mentors have played a critical role in my business. Each time I’m faced with a seemingly overwhelming set of circumstances, I lean heavy on the men and women in my life who have been there and done that. Why would I want to try to figure it out myself? No way! I’d rather learn from the experiences of others and not have to go throug the pain.
Mentors play another key role. Many times, they don’t tell you the answers to your problems. Instead, they help you ask the right questions. I’ve been so deep in a situation that I can’t see alternatives other than what I’ve been thinking about. Smart mentors help you take a step back and look at the problem form another viewpoint. And sometimes, that’s all you need for a major breakthrough.
Who are your mentors? It’s good to have them in business as well as your personal life. Mentors are people who add value to you by providing you with another way to view the world.
A great mentor never gives you the answer. They only help you ask the right questions.
My buddy, Nadav Wilf, just got back from an incredible trip to Neckar Island with Richard Branson. I was offered to go, but there wasn't a guarantee that Mr. B was going to be there, so I took a pass. (I have another blog post brewing about my own issue of saying 'no' to too many things, but that will have to wait for another day).
Here is his facebook post on what he learned from Richard last week.
"Charisma: what makes some people charismatic and others not? Genes? Good looks? What does a person like Richard Branson have that we may not? Consider that charisma is simply being present for others. Being a space for others to get who they really are, what is possible for them to achieve and who they can be for others. I had the pleasure of getting to spend time with Richard this past week and the man is a present and authentic. He can pick up the phone and be with anyone in the world, and he genuinely wants to be with you…that's true charisma and we all have it:) Love you all for who you are."
If a person is given a title in the company, it means they hold a certain rank. VP's, C-level means they have a high rank.
But the title doesn't make someone a leader.
Leading, however, means that others willingly follow you – not because they have to, not because they are paid to, but because they WANT to.
Leadership can't be given through a title. It must be earned.
You can have a title, yet not be a leader.
And you can have a lower title, but become an incredibly impactful leader.
Choose to lead.
I'm convinced that attitude is one of the biggest factors on our level of success and happiness. The same event could happen to two people, yet they would 'see' it differently based on their lens, which is made up on their view of the world.
Negative. Positive. Victim. Victor. Strength. Weakness. Love. Indifference.
All depends on the attitude.
Thus, life becomes 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.